I know I have spoken about “Diblings” before but I’m going to give you a little recap. My son, as you know, is donor conceived. He is however not the only child from this donor. In fact the family limit at the sperm bank I used is 25 families. His donor has reached the family limit and we know who 15 of the families are for sure… we have suspicions on 2 or 3 more but they have chosen not to be a part of our group and we obviously respect their decision.
I was initially unsure whether or not I wanted involvement with other donor siblings but the more I thought about it the more convinced I became that it was a good idea for him to grow up knowing who his half siblings are. I feel that because he is growing up without a father, he will benefit from the connection he shares with his half siblings. Furthermore, if he always knows who they are, it will always be normal to him.
Suffice to say our donor sibling (dibling) group is, on the whole very close. A small group of us met up in Boston last year – four families. It was wonderful. Our meetup broke the ice and this year when we started planning we were lucky enough to have 10 children from 8 families attend.
This past June my son and I headed first to Chicago where we met with the donor family to whom we are closest. We had shared a room in Boston the year before and found that we had an easy friendship and similar parenting styles. We are both equally unfazed by the uglier moments of raising toddlers as our kids take turns to have meltdowns.
Chicago. OMG. So Much Fun!!
What an amazing town for adults and toddlers alike. The mere fact that the trains can be seen and heard above the streets made the City more appealing than Disneyworld to my son. The yells of “Look Mama!! Choochoo!” were pretty much constant. And the mirrored bean and the parks with the statues for the kids to walk and climb upon. It really couldn’t have been any easier to keep them entertained.
After a couple of days in Chicago we headed to the Wisconsin Dells to meet the rest of the ‘family’ at Great Wolf Lodge. The Dells is a strange place and the venue would not have been my first choice but we still had fun.
You would think that a vacation with ten children under 4 would be a sh*tshow but it was surprisingly calm. Four of us had rented a condo so that we could have a central place to congregate and that worked out pretty well. During the day we chased our small people around and managed to get some quality time together in the pools and around the cabanas. Some kids napped in our arms, others went back to the room. We had pizza night, ate at the restaurant and some of us even managed to go out for dinner one evening.
It’s fascinating to see all the kids interact with each other. They have an easy affinity with one another. They share mannerisms. When one of them cries or laughs, multiple mothers look up thinking that it’s their child. Yet at the same time, with all their similarities – they all look so much like their Mothers! We have every shade of hair, eyes, skin. It’s a beautiful sight to behold and touches us in ways that is hard to explain.
We have already planned our get together for next year. We have rented a giant house on the Outerbanks. There are even more families than last year with more renting Airbnb’s nearby. We figured that we would get so much more out of the vacations if we were all in one central place where we could eat together and congregate in a home. It’s going to be memorable and I, for one cannot wait!